One of my favorite parts of visiting with my brother is the fact that we have opinions on opposite ends of many spectrums. Politics, business, marketing tactics - I think sometimes if we find too much to agree on on any one topic, we'll make something up, just for the sake of a good debate. There's something special about a relationship like that, especially when it's a brother. There's mutual respect and sibling rivalry, but there's something else about having a brother to go round and round with. It's a level of trust and respect, and the fact that we've already parried so violently growing up that we know how far we can go without risking it being the time we go "too far".
Having a conversation-partner like that is rare, and I count it a blessing to be able to spar with such openness. It's something that strikes me so profoundly because the conversations that I have seem to stay so safe - even when talking about sensitive subject matter. I can be having a conversation with someone about the imminent death of a parent, and it's in such clinical terms we might as well be discussing the weather.
I've been thinking about it so much, because I just got back from a visit. Our conversation started around the topic of business models. It really doesn't matter which type of business or who was arguing what. It was just interesting how approaches to the problem exposed underlying suppositions, led to ethical dilemmas, turned over thoughts that challenged everything about the way each of us perceived the world.
Anyway - we started talking at around 9:00pm. We finally staggered off to bed close to 4:00am, and neither of us could sleep because we got ourselves so wound up in thought. There's something that activates the most primitive part of the brain - getting that wound up in conversation.
There wasn't anything terribly profound about the subject matter. It was really just the level of trust. The intellectual high. The addictive spiral of swirling further and further flung from the where we started.
I recommend everyone find a cup of coffee and don't hold back. After all there's no school tomorrow.